A Thanksgiving Message On Gratitude & Celebration

The holidays can be charged with emotion - and not always the ones you'd expect. The message below from Lighthouse Consulting Services came to me through my Vistage community last year and I saved it as I found the words poignant and impacting. As the holiday season officially commences today, I am sharing it with my readers, subscribers and connections.

In addition, in the theme of gratitude, I recommend the TedxSF video below, from professional cinematographer, director and producer Louie Schwartzberg. It complements the Borowka's passage with an uplifting message. In 10 minutes of artistic imagery from around the world, Schwartzberg shows us how to be grateful for the beauty and wonder around us - in everything from nature, to faces, to our own city streets.

I hope each of you will find a moment to enjoy this content, and accept my sincerest wishes for a safe and thoughtful Thanksgiving weekend.



Holidays - A Ritual of Joy or Sorrow

By Ellen and Dana Borowka

The year-end holidays of Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah and New Year's Eve evoke powerful emotions in many of us. The holidays can be a time of great joy and celebration or a reminder of the losses we have experienced. We expect a great deal of ourselves: happiness, material abundance, family, friends, health -- the list is endless -- and the holidays and the ending of the year invite us to take stock of our success and where we are lacking. This can be a positive and healthy experience if we approach the task with four guidelines:

First, remember that the holidays were designed to respect and acknowledge the pain and sadness of life. We are often very hard on ourselves, because we are not happy as we feel we should be and may be angry with ourselves for our sad state of mind. A study of the origins of the year-end holidays suggests they were designed not only as religious events, but also to lift our spirits and give us respite and comfort from the winters of our lives. Many cultures as diverse as the Romans and Aztecs had rituals at the end of December, honoring not only their religion, but also to honor the sadness and losses of the year. Whether we light up the branches of the Christmas tree or the candles of the Menorah, the efforts to lift our spirits and enlighten our journey are now built into the rituals. The holidays were based on the premise that we had our grief and then the New Year could bring new hope.

The second guideline is that the holidays were designed to be communal, to be shared. At times in our lives, this is easy, but at other times, the loss of a loved one can make holidays much harder. It is recommended that we seek out our friends or explore new paths to others through volunteer work, religious activities, the many self-help groups that are available in our community or professional counseling. If we are to embrace our sorrow and find new meaning and hope, we will need help.

The third guideline is to view the holidays as a time of giving or service to others. By this, I do not mean buying expensive gifts for people, but rather small acts of kindness. Some examples might be sending people thank you notes; expressing your gratitude for their friendship and detailing some of the qualities about them you love; smiling at strangers; being courteous and helpful as a driver; or doing volunteer work with those less fortunate.

And fourth, be good to yourself and your body, whether it is grieving or celebrating. As someone once said, "the Christmas spirit is not what you drink." Our efforts to brighten our mood with alcohol, sugar or excess of any kind make it harder to embrace the true spirit of the holidays. We have much to be grateful for at this time of the year, not only whatever abundance we may have, but for our courage to love and to feel the joy and the sorrow of the holiday season.

Tips to Handling the Holidays

  • Make sure your expectations are realistic for yourself and others. Ask yourself, "Am I expecting too much of myself and those around me?"
  • Get back to the true meaning of the holidays. Don't let the rush and glitter overshadow the holiday spirit.
  • Before rushing around for the holidays, check your motivation and make sure it is in alignment with the spirit of the holidays.
  • Make yourself a priority during the holiday season by eating well and balanced, exercising or walking, and giving yourself enough private time.
  • Set a realistic budget for gift spending and find creative and inspiring ways to give. Some find giving to charities or planting a tree in someone's name to be very fulfilling.
  • Say no when you need to. Don't allow yourself to become overwhelmed. Minimize holiday decorations. Choose what is really important to you, and you will save time on decorating and cleaning up.

May your holidays be filled with much happiness and beauty!

Ellen and Dana Borowka  are Vistage speakers and co-founders of Lighthouse Consulting Services (LCS).


Written By

Larry Hart


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